How to Foster Your Flock: Getting Started
Take these easy steps to begin fostering your relationships
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Hug it out.
The idea of “fostering your flock” is about focusing on human connections when we are stressed or emotionally taxed. I don’t know about you but the past two years have left me drained. I definitely needed my flock and they needed me.
So, you might be wondering, what’s the first step to flocking? Don’t worry– the answer isn’t one extra thing to put on your plate. We all hold enough guilt as it is when we can’t follow through on something.
Research shows that human connection, specifically touch and eye contact, changes our neurophysiology. More simply, hugs matter! Our brain only needs a 20 seconds hug to release that good feeling chemical called oxytocin.
We all have access to a quick-fix mood boost and the best part: you simultaneously boost someone else’s mood too.
And it’s not just hugs.
A short burst of being fully present with someone is enough to foster connection and reduce our stress. Any small moment can be made into a meaningful connection. Even hand-washing.
What could this look like for you and your flock?
You join your toddler in their play for a few minutes and follow whatever nonsensical rules they create.
You spark a spontaneous freeze-dance party with your students while waiting for dismissal.
(See how educators are using a “people first” mindset to help build meaningful connections with students during the Covid-19 pandemic.)
You walk by your teenager, put a hand on their shoulder and say, “I see how kind you are to your friends, that’s pretty cool at your age.”
(Check out this blog post from One Trusted Adult for a free guide to starting conversations with young people.)
You take the time to say “I’m sorry” when you know you weren’t at your best.
And if you have a few more than a few minutes, set up a quick virtual meeting or video game session with your distant friends.
(Read how video games helped combat isolation during the pandemic.)
Want to maximize your fostering step one? Add a dose of nature, play, or movement for extra boost of brain regulation. Stay tuned for more on these important additions.
The takeaway:
We’re all busy– crazy busy– and connection according to your brain only requires a blip on your radar. It doesn’t take much to invest in your relationships.
So, take a deep breath and commit to being vulnerable and validating. Your flock will thank you for it.
